Have you tried #emdr for emotional trauma?

It was the first time we were introduced to #EMDR.

On Apr 9, 2015, at 10:22 AM, Teacher wrote:

Good morning,

I just wanted to let you know that there is a Chapter Test coming up in Social Studies along with a research paper in English.

My concern is that she has had time to complete her outline for her research paper in class and gather information. I got her started on her outline last week before break. She didn’t do much on it in class. Then Tuesday she had two hours to work on it. She did nothing and then was gone yesterday. She is behind in this paper because the students should already be typing it up. The 5-10 page rough draft is due on Monday. She also did not turn in her reading log from the break, which will affect her grade.

I just wanted you all to know. Let me know if I can help.

Education Specialist
Muirlands Middle School

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Date: Thu, Apr 9, 2015 at 6:38 PM
Subject: Re: FYI
To: Teacher
Cc: Husband’s New Wife, Husband

Thank you for letting us know
Will make sure she finishes her work over the weekend and returns her reading log asp
Husband’s Ex-Wife

From: Husband
Date: Sat, Apr 11, 2015 at 5:09 PM
Subject: School
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Cc: Husband’s New Wife

Since she has been at your house almost 70% of her grades are D/F or incomplete work. She’s also missed several days of school when she didn’t have too. She is telling us she is hating school. We are concerned how stressful this rapid change has been for her and regret reacting in that way did because it was not the best decision for our daughter. We were just so offended after the enormous amount of effort that we have been putting in and how unappreciated it is by you.

Her IEP teacher is reaching out with concern for the first time this year. At this time we want to eliminate the stress this is now causing her especially now that she has started therapy. We picked up Nina (cat) today so she can have her cat with her and not worry about her getting hurt by Jet Lag. She has expressed that she is open to working towards seeing you every weekend and 1/2 Day Wednesdays every month, but for now, would like to check in with you closer to the weekend to make sure she is still comfortable.


From: Husband
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Cc: Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Saturday, April 11, 2015 5:58 PM
Subject: Her new cat

We picked up the cat out of concern for her. We’re taking her to the vet Monday. That’s why she wanted her picked her up. Our daughter was concerned and wanted me to help. The cat has black dots in her ear and on her eyes. She heard the veterinarian say:

“if she develops any black dots near the wounds that that is a sign of infection and the cat needs to come back immediately to be checked.”

She also told us that she asked you several times to take her to the vet for that very reason, but you didn’t want to. So we don’t mind doing it for her and for the well-being of the cat.

On Apr 11, 2015, at 6:10 PM, Husband’s Ex-Wife wrote:

Its not your decision
The cats ear is better and we were told to only come back if it gets worst
Return the cat it s not your cat
Husband’s Ex-Wife

From: Husband
Date: April 11, 2015 at 6:26:11 PM PDT
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Subject: Re: cat

You seem to be more concerned about taking her cat away from her. Do you even care about how that will effect her? You gave her a cat…and now you want to take it away from her? Isn’t that the whole reason why you got her this cat to begin with? The first cat became “the family cat” so you got this one for her.

Hmm this is very confusing for her. She should be able to take her cat wherever she goes.

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Date: April 11, 2015 at 6:29:50 PM PDT
To: Husband
Subject: Re: cat

Its the family cat not only hers
Eitherway you dont promote a action like that
About her school works shes has only misses half day this week
And the 2 otherdays have a doctor escuse
She work on her social study project
And the only thing she didnt return is her reading log over spring break
She had b a d c too here a d actually
The last month with you had a f
Its not only here

4/11/15 Saturday
We finally got a psychologist for a friend of family court attorney long and time friend. We started seeing the new therpist on Saturday she felt very comfortable. At the end of the meeting we were told that she would need to go through EDMR therapy for emotional trauma. We felt encouraged that she can be fixed. We also had a private meeting with the new therapist where we talked to her about how she ended up at her Mom’s house after she was with us full time after tremendous fight and struggle. She has been expressing she wanted to live at our home for years now, so our best strategy was to use the school as the driving force similar to how we handled it. The new therpiast expressed to us that she did not want to judge, but she felt that she was being used as a guinea pig or sacrificial lamb. She said it seems like we have been able to navigate this outside of the courts, so we should feel empowered and use that power to focus on what is best for her. We said okay we could do this we will say we made a knee jerk reaction and should not have reacted to her harassing text messages as we did during the week that she was bonding with her new cat as we encouraged her to do so. She reluctantly agreed to stay with the cat. We had a three-way call with the Mom, my stepdaughter, and the new therapist. She called the therapist from her bedroom as the attack was happening. During the three ways call the Mom refused to give up the cat back to my stepdaughter. My stepdaughter was screaming. I hate you to her Mom and that she tries to take away everything that she loves.

#EMDR #family #love #steppareting #coparent #parenting #stepmom #mom #dad #stepdaughter #domesticviolence #strangulation #strangulationawareness #violence #truth

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