Is lice for five months okay?

Apparently for their mom it is was. She and her son ended up with it too. My adult stepson had it as did my stepdaughter. She told us that we were calling her dirty and making it up that she had lice. She refused to help us control the situation by denying it existed. Sort of what she is doing about the fact that she attacked and strangled me, oddly (just realizing the smiliarity).

I was in a new job working almost everyday trying to calibrate to a new home office. I was exhausted and every night for hours during the weeks she was with us I was combing out lice. Washing bedding, quarantining stuffed animals. Come January we had come to a point where a house needed to be picked in order to get rid of it. It was okay because my step daughter was failing school and she need the consistency badly anyhow so blaming it on the lice might actually help her. Not to mention that she was asking daily to live in at our house.

November 21, 2014 -the kids have had lice since early September. I spend my nights combing lice out of their (yes both kids) hair. She is almost failing school. Our life is very stressful.

From: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband; Husband’s Ex-Wife
Sent: Tuesday, November 25, 2014 4:04 PM
Subject: Re: new therapist

In light of all the issues we are having now in the houses I think it’s a good idea to reinstate seeing a therapist. At one house she’s being told she is being rejected now. This sort of behavior can be very destructive for a young kid.

She needs a neutral party to talk to.

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband; Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Thursday, December 18, 2014 9:41 AM
Subject: my daughter

Husband and Husband’s New wife, the current situation is not beneficial for her. coparenting should be done with respect not insults. both of you stop texting me, harassing me and threatening me. i will not read or respond to any text or email that is not about scheduling school, doctor appointments, pickups and drop offs.

i propose that she lives with us full time. we will pay for all of her living expenses. we already spoke to her and she was ok with it but worried and afraid of hurting your feelings. we can start the first week in january. let me know.

Husband’s Ex-Wife

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband
Cc: Husband’s New Wife; Husband’s Ex-Wife’s New Husband
Sent: Sunday, January 11, 2015 4:47 PM
Subject: My daughter

Husband-
I will only meet with a mediator or lawyer to make any changes regarding our daughter.
I ask you again when will she return to me .you had her 2 weeks in a row not respecting
Our child custody agreement
Husband’s Ex-Wife

From: Husband’s New Wife
Date: Mon, Jan 12, 2015 at 3:39 PM
Subject: Make Up Work
To: ajones teacher
Cc: Husband

Hi Ms. Jones-

We are reaching out as she looks to need to make up the quiz on Chapter 4 section 3, can she do this? Also, she wants to know if she can retest on Ch. 4 section 4 because she got an F.

Let us know.

Thanks,
Her Dad

From: Husband
Subject: Re: my daughter
Date: Mon, 12 Jan 2015 06:42:45 -0800
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
CC: Husband’s New Wife

the previous situation (week on week off) was not beneficial for her. coparenting should be done with respect not insults (i.e. “brainwashing” comments and calling names like “stealer”). both of you stop texting us, harassing us and threatening us. we will not read or respond to any text or email that is not about scheduling school, doctor appointments, pickups and drop offs.

she wants to live with us full time. we will continue to share her living expenses. you already spoke to jo and she told you she wants this and was afraid of hurting your feelings when she told you she was not ready to decide before. you already agreed to this given her failing grades while at your house and the the stress this was causing her.

let us know what is not clear, and it seems you and she are working out when you can see each other.

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband; Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Monday, January 12, 2015 10:10 AM
Subject: RE: my daughter

I never agreed to any changes. I texted you asking this would be discussed with the help of mediator.
she told me the opposite a month ago and for the same reason im not sure thats what she really wants.
Husband’s Ex-Wife

Subject: Re: my daughter
From: Husband
Date: Mon, 12 Jan 2015 11:45:47 -0800
CC: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife

She told us that after you guys talked on the phone that you supported her decision to pick a house.

She told us you wanted to meet and have lunch to discuss with her in person and she told you she wanted us there with her. You denied her the right to have her father with her, told her you WILL NOT have any meeting with us there which made her feel very stressed and uncertain of meeting with you alone. As far as we know you have not made an effort to further a discussion with her about it so in her mind it is settled based on what you have said because you told her you support her.

This back and forth you are trying to do with her is not productive and only makes her feel stressed. We can’t be telling her one thing and doing another. She will continue to not trust you if this continues.

You keep saying that you need a mediator or a lawyer but we don’t have the same needs and are not motivated to find one for you to help you feel more comfortable. At the end of the day all we care about is that she feels safe, comfortable and happy, we will not force her to do something she is not comfortable with. It is your responsibility to fix this with your daughter so that she wants to see you and spend time.

If all this has only created a battle you want to pick with us instead of focusing on what will support her than that’s your problem not ours. Threatening her that her Papa is going to get in big trouble and you are going to show up at the school with police only makes her want to stay away from you and not trust you.

You say you didn’t agree to changes but you did and you told her you support her several times.

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband
Cc: Husband’s New Wifwe
Sent: Monday, January 12, 2015 12:01 PM
Subject: RE: My daughter

Husband-
i will repeat myself again ,will only meet with mediator .
Husband’s Ex-Wife

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband; Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Monday, January 12, 2015 10:27 AM
Subject: health coverage

Husband-
Our health coverage with aetna and metlife dental is in the procedure of changing to cobra
Will let you know as soon as i have the new details

she has a cleanning schedule on the 3 february at 3 pm at the dentist at childrens and will need one big cavity and 2 little ones to be fixed after that.
Husband’s Ex-Wife

From: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife; Husband
Sent: Monday, January 12, 2015 3:48 PM
Subject: Re: health coverage

We will be able to add her onto our insurance starting on the first of next month. No need to add her to cobra and going forward we will have her on our family plan. This will include vision, dental and medical. Please confirm as we cannot have double coverage.

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife >
To: Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Tuesday, January 13, 2015 4:42 PM
Subject: Re: health coverage

Confirming its ok to ad her to your plan.
Let me know details when you have them .

From: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Cc: Husband
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2015 12:12 PM
Subject: Re: health coverage

Oh yes as soon as we have details you will be a priority to communicate important details that have to do with co-parenting like this to be consistent with how our communication has been to date.

From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband>; Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2015 1:53 PM
Subject: RE: health coverage

As a result of transfering health coverage she is not covered this month .
when will the new coverage start just wanted to make sure we might have to postpone her dentist apt on the 3 of feb
she was complaining about her ear again yesterday if you bring her to doc for check up inform them she has no coverage and they will give discount for visit
Husband’s Ex-Wife

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