I should have realized immediately her over interest in my pregnancy was a bad sign, I was completely ignorant to the idea that she was obsessing over everything. My effort to help was sorely misunderstood. I wanted to communicate, help a little girls life be better. Help her learn to communicate how she feels and advocate for herself. Empower her. Instead I almost got myself killed. Looking back I cannot say I would be any different. I had a little girl on my hands that needed a lot of support. She need someone to listen to her, she needed to feel heard and be seen.
From: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
CC: Husband
Sent: Wed, March 24, 2010 7:59:02 AM
Subject: FW: Thursday, March 25 Mandatory Meeting
Hi Husband’s Ex-Wife,
Big brother has 4 cavities and little sister has 6. She’ll be back at the dentist today for work they just learned her up yesterday. Big brother has most of them done yesterday. She’ll have to go back again next week as they won’t do all the work in one day on kids. My husband has more information. We did not find her old vest not sure where that info came from 🙂 So you’ll have to get us her new one for tomorrow and you’ll have to call my husband to coordinate as I am not home.
Talk soon!
Husband’s New Wife
From: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Sent: Sunday, March 28, 2010 1:47 PM
Subject: Party
Hi there,
I won’t be able to make tonight now. Surprise visit from a close girlfriend from up north to celebrate my best friend’s birthday early. Perfect horrible timing. Sorry to miss out hope it’s a huge success!
Big kiss-
Husband’s New Wife
From: Husband’s Ex-Wife
To: Husband; Husband’s New Wife
Sent: Sun, April 18, 2010 11:32:59 AM
Subject: her stuff
ok my new husband try to call no answer but its ok ill give the stuff to big brother tomorrow she can put her mass shoes one…have a great week.
From: Husband’s New Wife
To: Husband’s Ex-Wife
Sent: Monday, April 19, 2010 9:38 AM
Subject: Re: her stuff
Hi there,
We had a really great weekend. She was so helpful and wanted to teach my friend’s small daughter everything it was adorable. How can you stand it around your son?! Adorable. My girlfriends opinion was that what she’s going through seems like pretty normal stuff and that her behaviors/reactions were pretty normal and healthy too. Her expressing herself is, although scary at first if she is saying things like the kids all hate me, is really great and positive. A reflection on her trusting and feeling comfortable at home.
She did say that it can never hurt to have her talk to someone regarding divorce and going between homes (that is probably her biggest challenge) and that the most important thing is consistency for her. All stuff we are already know and probably could work on. She didn’t mention once all weekend about the school thing or being upset about her buddies leaving or wanting to go to a new school. Maybe it was a dramatic day. I think we should talk to Mr. Cline because the worst that I think that can happen personally is her learning disrupted. There are school resources at Stella we can lean on right? Maybe a good place to start is there.
Big hugs!
Husband’s New Wife
Strangled In La Jolla 
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