It was never about what was right for the kids, it was always about her time. Respect me, my week! I still feel it is strange when people say respect me. It just feels weird […]
My journey from a life threatening strangulation attack back to vibrant wellness and all the messiness in between. Join me to help make strangulation a felony domestic violence or not and get step-parents viewed as family by law. I was the stepmom Domestic Violence Laws in California did not protect me.
Category: A Chronicle of What Happened
Warning Signs of Future Domestic Violence
You won’t believe what you forget. I have been journaling since 1993. Not every day but enough to look back on and put the pieces together to make sense of life when life starts to […]
Meet my Boobs
A year after divorce at 31 I got my boobs done. My mom told me not to. I did not listen. My best friend just told me I was so stubborn there was no telling […]
Trauma can be a Gift
It was four years ago today. We had not realized how fragile she was having partially witnessed her mother’s violence. I remember laying on the ground while on the phone with 911. I was on […]
Don’t Panic during a Panic Attack!
It came on fast, they all did, all 88 of them. Every day for almost three months after I was nearly strangled to death by someone 70 pounds and 1 almost a foot taller. I […]
That is Super F#%ked Up
Step-Parents are not protected parties under domestic violence laws in California. It was not domestic violence for me despite happening at my home, in front of my husband with our children and beloved dog Biggie Smalls inside hearing me screaming for my life. What isn’t domestic about this?
My Scream, My Weapon
She looks so satisfied. Screaming was my only defense. I was warned from our trauma speciliast that as long as she is alive my life will be in danger. There is distinct psychological difference in […]
If 1 minute can change your life, 27 seconds can KILL YOU
In 27 seconds of strangulation, I received two traumatic brain injuries seconds apart and 360 whiplash that is still not fully resolved. I lost consciousness for ten seconds after my head was slammed to our […]
What was Said
I watched him walk up to her and say he couldn’t believe she hurt their daughter like this. She knew we were going to the therapist; she knew this was a possible outcome; how could […]
Exhausted and Tear Stained
We were exhausted and tear stained. You know the cries you have where you cry until you cannot cry any longer? That was us the night my step daughter had to return her cat to […]
